It’s only Words …

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There is this guy, I met him during uni years he was my junior. Later in life he thanked me for dragging him into the right way and now his a succesful entrepeneur yet to conquer the world. It gives you a warm feeling that you actually are useful and in someway can change people’s life. It makes you want to try again.On the way the were couple of other cases where people just thank you for things you did (where you actually couldn’t remember what you did to deserve such acknoledgment)

But that’s the problem I never meant to change his world and direct him, I just shared,  we become friends, do things together, we saw his potential and gave him a nudge. It was all my friends decision to change into the person he is now.

Funny, you want good things to happen to certain persons you care, but it just won’t happen. You gave them attention, be there for them, show that you care, ensure them again and again. But change just don’t happen. Is it because we were on the conscience path to change people the process seem to be more painful and involved in certain levels? And it hurts inside that the persons that care is actually destroying themselves.

It reminds you that are just a human, change is something that should be done by the owner of the Heart and where the heart resides. Yes, its a good feeling that you meant to somebody so much that it changes their lifes but you just can’t be cocky about it. You’re no superhero … you can’t change anybody you want.

All you can do is be patient, and stay by their side, although it hurt as hell trying your best not to let you heart turn into stone.

I remember Steve Maynard Clarke the guitarist of Def Leppard who died of acohol overdose in the peak of his career. He tried to get rid of his bad past where his dad always subdued him and told him he was useless even until he became a rockstar.  He was in a succesful band selling millions yet he felt small and needed to escape.

His friends dedicated the track “White Lightning” and poignantly noted on the album cover sleeve how his mate felt seeing Steve destroying himself through alcohol.

its just an example, people destroy themselves through many things, relationships, broken heart, drug, abuse …or just plain negative thoughts

“For each one are successive [angels] before and behind him who protect him by the decree of Allah . Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. And when Allah intends for a people ill, there is no repelling it. And there is not for them besides Him any patron (13:11)”

there’s is a Du’a which says.

“O Turner of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your Religion.”

in a  way it also says make my heart firm upon what is good, what is worth fighting for, and on the promises that you made …

ahhh…ngomong apa sih …harusnya nulis paper ini …

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7 thoughts on “It’s only Words …

  1. Like this laah, Abang…
    ‘Yaa Muqallibal Quluub, Tsabbit Qalbi ‘Ala Diinik’
    “Wahai Dzat yang membolak-balikkan hati, teguhkan hati kami di atas agama-Mu.” (HR. Tirmidzi)


    ‘Yaa Muqallibal Quluub, Tsabbit Qalbi ‘Ala Ta’atik’
    “Wahai Dzat yg membolak-balikan hati teguhkanlah hatiku diatas ketaatan kepadamu” (HR. Muslim)

  2. Like this laah, Abang…
    ‘Yaa Muqallibal Quluub, Tsabbit Qalbi ‘Ala Diinik’
    “Wahai Dzat yang membolak-balikkan hati, teguhkan hati kami di atas agama-Mu.” (HR. Tirmidzi)


    ‘Yaa Muqallibal Quluub, Tsabbit Qalbi ‘Ala Ta’atik’
    “Wahai Dzat yg membolak-balikan hati teguhkanlah hatiku diatas ketaatan kepadamu” (HR. Muslim)

  3. nice post.
    yes it is hurt when we’re trying to change someone whom we loved so much, but he/she just never seems to change at all. just like what a friend of mine said to me this morning.
    he tried to convince someone he loved so much to change, but that person seems never understand and just kept doing and doing what seems right.
    i told my friend… don’t force that person to change, it should be from inside, the willingness to change. but then… it is hurting us deeply seeing someone we know even loved so much never change…

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